Ever felt pulled between your entrepreneurial ambitions and your marriage? You’re not alone. In this candid episode, I sit down with relationship coach Monica Tanner, who offers a fresh perspective on how entrepreneurs can navigate the tension between their business goals and their relationships. Monica shares a game-changing truth: “Your partner can be passionate about YOU without being passionate about what you’re passionate about.”
In this episode, we dive deep into her insights, especially from her upcoming book, Bad Marriage Advice. Monica debunks common relationship myths and offers practical strategies to help entrepreneurs—particularly those married to non-entrepreneurs—keep their marriages strong while building their businesses.
Why “Never Go to Bed Angry” Can Hurt Your Relationship
Monica challenges a popular piece of advice that many of us have heard over and over again: “Never go to bed angry.” While it sounds like great relationship advice, Monica reveals how this mentality can lead to more harm than good. Instead, she shares her own experience of losing countless hours of sleep trying to resolve conflicts with her exhausted husband. The breakthrough came when they started addressing their issues only after both were rested and able to think clearly.
This one simple shift transformed their communication, deepened their trust, and allowed them to approach problems from a place of clarity, not exhaustion.
A Toolkit for Entrepreneurs Married to Non-Entrepreneurs
For entrepreneurs married to non-entrepreneurs, Monica offers a toolkit of practical strategies to help bridge the gap between business and personal life:
- Over-communicate during intense business periods: Don’t assume your partner knows what’s going on. Share updates, even small wins, so they understand where you’re at emotionally and professionally.
- Express genuine appreciation for their support: Entrepreneurs often get caught up in the hustle, but taking time to thank your spouse for their support makes a huge difference in nurturing your connection.
- Embrace differentiation: Monica emphasizes the importance of standing firmly in your vision, even when your spouse may express doubts. Honor their perspective, as their concerns often stem from love and protection, not a lack of support.
How to Make Time for Your Marriage in a Busy Entrepreneurial Life
Monica’s advice is especially valuable for those who feel overwhelmed with the demands of entrepreneurship. The reality is, running a business often requires long hours, late nights, and mental energy that can feel draining. However, by implementing Monica’s strategies, you can keep your relationship strong while also staying focused on your business goals.
The most important step? Prioritize your relationship, even when it feels like there’s no time. Monica’s strategies show that small, consistent efforts go a long way toward creating lasting connection and trust.
Entrepreneurship doesn’t have to come at the cost of your marriage. By implementing the strategies Monica Tanner shares in this episode, you can nurture both your business and your relationship, creating a more balanced and fulfilling life.
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